Hi there. Been awhile. I’m disappointed that I haven’t taken the time to record here what I’ve been thinking about and doing. For my own sake, really — the personal history in the archives of this blog has already become precious to me, as sparse as it is. I want to be better at writing things down.
Let’s see — the life updates since I last posted are as follows:
- We left our church. This development is probably worthy of several blog posts on its own, but long story short: M worked as a minister at a church for several years, he resigned last Spring, and while we continued attending through the Summer and Fall, that became increasingly difficult. We finally left late last year, and doing so has been very freeing. I may write more on this at some point, but for now, I can’t really overstate the peace we have been experiencing since walking away from what was a very unhealthy situation.
- We met with a new RE and got a second opinion on our options. He agreed that an IUI cycle with injectables is an extreme first step that doesn’t make a lot of sense considering what we know so far. We liked this doctor much more, which is a great start. We’re now considering whether it makes sense to proceed with a natural cycle IUI (unlikely to work, but minimally invasive) or a laparascopy to check for mild endometriosis (fairly invasive procedure, but if mild endo is present and removed, could improve our chances for getting pregnant naturally). We’re not in a rush to decide at this point, but will probably proceed with a Plan in the coming months.
- I’m still loving my new job. M is officially “all but dissertation” and teaching classes, which he loves.
- I’m running more, and training for a ten-mile race in April.
- I’ve been reading a lot, and thinking a lot about our situation. Now I just have to record it so I don’t lose these thoughts. But the general theme would be “Not Obsessing” or maybe “Hey, Some People have Real Problems.” Not to minimize infertility…but to try to be better at contextualizing what this struggle means for me and for my general life and worth as a person. I believe this is a good thing, but something I still need to sort out.
I’m thankful, once again, for this space and for those of you who read my ramblings.
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February 8, 2010 at 11:45 am
loribeth
Good to hear from you! You sound at peace, & full of possibilities for the future at the same time. : )
February 8, 2010 at 8:51 pm
Hillary
Great to hear from you! So glad you have many wonderful things in your life right now 🙂
February 10, 2010 at 12:18 pm
Quiet Dreams
It’s wonderful to hear you sounding so peaceful.
February 16, 2010 at 2:56 am
S.I.F.
I’ve had two laproscopic surgeries to remove endo (and I have a lot of it – I’ve had to have my appendix and one tube removed because of spreading endo as well, and it is all over my kidneys, bladder, and bowel), and just wanted to tell you that it is actually pretty easy to bouce back from. I was off all pain pills by the second day both times, and was feeling pretty “normal” by day 3. I certainly didn’t work out for a few weeks (and in fact, if I stretched wrong in the morning I would catch my breath a little at the pulling), but I was able to return to normal life (work and hanging out with friends) pretty quickly both times. I would definitly recommend you go that route, because it could be worthwhile to have a diagnosis at the very least and get it cleared up. I personally think it was totally worth it both times for me!
February 18, 2010 at 10:11 pm
Silya
Thank you! I believe that is the route we’re going to take.